It’s Almost 2016… Are you ready to Move “in” ?

It is one day before the new year’s eve of 2016 and I needed to share this one with you. Most of us go through life exactly the same way a really treasured object whose owner loses to the waters of the ocean while aboard a cruise ship would turn out. Notice the object gets more beat up the further it travels through the currents of the ocean because it is pummeled in all directions by the waves and the elements as it floats aimlessly and endlessly. Finally, it may drift ashore onto a beach somewhere. Sometimes, it gets lucky; someone who happens to be on the beach recognizes the value of this treasure, picks it up and takes it home, putting it to good use. Other times, this treasure might not be that lucky and simply gets buried in the sands of the beach, forever!

A lot of us still believe that life is happening to us when in fact; we are active participants in charting the courses of our lives through our current actions, thoughts, and words. We always chart either consciously or unconsciously every single circumstance, experience, events and even people that come into our lives.  Our biggest problems in life is usually how we go about building up the courage to step into our own lives or how to go about taking full ownership of our lives or simply how to live as fearlessly as we possibly can without worrying about what others would think or say about us.

The sad reality is that often times, we tend to play the role of outsiders in our own lives; who merely observes from the outside! An outsider is usually unable to do much in a situation that he does not own or control. Fear usually holds us back and makes us slaves to other people’s toxic emotions, feelings, and opinions. Listen carefully, unless you are still minors who continues to be answerable to parents, guardians or other care-givers, nothing should stop you as adults from moving into your own life and asserting yourself in it.

I came to the realization that truly living our lives to its fullest potential, means taking full ownership of it and resisting that urge that makes us constantly to seek approval and validation from everything outside of ourselves. This is in recognition of the enormous power that resides within us! (your Victor) This power makes anything we believe and work fervently towards possible!!!

A life that is lived through the mirror of another’s experience, feelings and opinion, is a tainted life and often, we are merely living life through the mirror and experiences of others. How many times have you wanted to do something you really like and after talking to another person, you have a change of heart? Think about how many dreams, goals and aspirations you have lost as a result along your journey. Until we assume full ownership of our life by living it on our own terms, we really have not started living; we are merely simply, “existing”.

I personally believe that a lot of inventions, dreams, and aspirations that potentially could have re-written the course of human history are taken to graves by their owners on a daily basis simply because their owners never quite moved into their own lives!

Some people who seek affirmations and approval from others end up abandoning a dream that could have been worth so much! Perhaps, it could have re-written the course of human history or even positively impacted one life! Sometimes, the person you are seeking affirmation from is not on the same frequency as you to appreciate the genius behind that dream or aspiration; or, he does not appreciate the meaning and magnitude of that dream to you; or, he may be simply misguided by other negative emotions like jealousy or envy; or perhaps they simply lack the requisite expertise needed to offer you any advice on that topic.

Begin asking yourself this question on a daily basis especially today that we are on the verge of meeting and greeting a new year; 2016!  “Have I really moved in into my life; am I still an outsider or have I emerged as the true landlord in my life”? If the answer is a NO, ask again, “Am I ready to emerge into my life as the owner/landlord”? Hopefully, with time and more exercise on “self-belief”, the answer will change to a YES!

Remember this today in order not to frustrate your new year’s resolution again, “Unless your goal, dream or aspiration injures, or harms the interest of a third person, every dream is worth pursing relentlessly because it is your dream and your life, and you’ve committed to living your life to its fullest potential and making a grand exit when this is all said and done”

As the clock ticks down to 2016, let us begin to renounce living our lives as strangers or like outsiders looking into our own lives. Let us commit to stepping it up a notch and announcing our presence in our lives, unafraid of anything or anyone!

On a closing note, a lot of us are still trapped in our “stranger cocoon” unsure of when we will eventually emerge into beautiful and handsome butterflies that we are meant to be. Resolve not to live in that cocoon especially in 2016.

Emerging into one’s life and having the courage to announce your presence in that life is the ticket to your peace of mind, success and happiness! Say today and mean it, “Hello _______, (say your name), It is nice to finally meet you, I am ready to love, honor, protect and fight for your dreams because those dreams will bless the world”. How does that feel to say? Guess that felt goodJ

Pardon me as I ask you once again? “Whose life is it anyway”? If it is your life, then, it is time to move into it, immerse yourself completely into it; Live it to its fullest potential; Celebrate it as much as you can; Dream as crazy as you wish and please. . ., please, . . . BE NOT AFRAID to pursue those dreams as fervently as possible especially in 2016! Why? Because IT IS YOUR DARN LIFEJ

Happy almost 2016!!!